It's difficult to tell what it is that true leaders have that allows them to say some things, whilst others cannot. Is it the body language? The eye contact (or movement)? The tone of voice? Or combinations of them, or something else?
We're all human here (I presume), and have all experienced people that we instantly respect and fall in line behind. And we have all had others in authority that we instantly feel uneasy about and question every decision without really knowing why. We use excuses like experience level and results etc, but these are often independent of the initial unease (and in the latter case can be a direct result of the unease in the first place).
I've read some statements in the papers from Stiles and immediately thought that he shouldn't have said it (the "defining season" statement prior to SA tour for example), but I am cognisant that I didn't see him say it.
When he called out Ready and Frisby I wasn't immediately put off by the statement as I was watching in on YouTube. It was only afterwards that I thought about it a bit more and was a bit uneasy about it, but even then saw no issue until I saw it being raised by others on the board here.
My first exposure to RG as a coach was when he had a presser when he was at the Force and he responded to one of the journos about a player injury with "well, he's a back isn't he" and my brain immediately screamed "well so were you!". He hadn't said anything particularly bad, and he had made a lighthearted comment that I immediately rebelled against. He's going to be a guy that people won't follow.
I wonder, those of you that saw the presser - how did you initially feel when he said it? If you felt nothing other than interest on his perspective then Stiles is probably going to get away with a lot of statements that might seem a bit much.
If you felt immediate unease - he'll lose the room quickly and it will be messy.