Quick Hands
David Wilson (68)
I have found this thread an interesting read. I'm going to make some comments from my personal observation in recent years.
I grew up on League. When my son wanted to pick up an oval ball that's the direction we went. But, despite living in rugby heartland my son had barely ever seen rugby. Partly because my bent was to League but also because most rugby is hidden away on the obvious access point for most people, free-to-air TV. Rugby is traditionally not visible - except to those who already follow the sport and that's not where growth comes from.
My son's conversion (and mine) came on the back of the father of a friend inviting him to try Rugby. He loved it and has left League a long way behind.
My son went to a public primary school where rugby was the only oval ball code in the school as recently as 2012. but, the rugby in the school was/is maintained solely by eager rugby parents (not the ARU, not the SJRU and not the local clubs). At that same school, over just a few years since 2012 League has become massive (multiple boys and girls teams) and AFL has also taken off. The reason? Both of those codes put people and resources into the school through the local clubs and as well development officers from the codes themselves. They are there regularly and they help the school to deliver their "product". (In fact last Friday I visited the school during the day for the first time in years to see my younger son and there was Greg Florimo and a couple of NRL bedecked helpers.)
Public schools run on the good will and interests (or lack of interest) of the teachers. They're great in providing opportunities to the kids but the easier you make it for them, the more likely it will be that it will happen.
This is a complicated issue and there is no one solution but Rugby's greatest failing is that it simply doesn't put the effort in to ensure its product is out there to be seen (by those who aren't already involved) and to support those who are positioned to help it grow.
Your example is a micorcosm of what's happened in the past thirty years.
Hope that your young blokes stay involved in rugby. It's a great game - it's the clowns who run it who are the problem.