U don’t even know what he said??? Could’ve been anything? Not sure why you’re so quick with all these assumptions you come up with joke??
As a current referee in and about the traps, I am well placed to provide an “insiders viewpoint” on how we treat - and react - to players giving back chat..
So here goes….
First and foremost, and this is important to note as this is either misunderstood, or simply unknown, is that you
will not find any law in the Rugby law book that states that a captain - of any rugby team - has the right to speak to any referee about any decision that they make (or do not make) - under any circumstances.
We as referees give the captain of any rugby team the ‘privilege’ to query any decision we make. This is a long standing tradition within our game, and its our way (as referees) of acknowledging the captains role and position in his/ her team. And before any match during the team pre-game chats, we
always ensure to say to captains that you may ask one question only (and at an opportune time too) and there will be no debate of any decision made. I always emphasise that its all about respectful interactions, and that the respect is to be shown and expected both ways.
Now during any game mistakes will be made – we know the players do them, and so do we refs – we are human, and as a referee during any game there is so much to view, check, analyse, interpret, decide, etc etc. Our roles as a ref is to make sure we minimise any mistakes we make, and learn from those that we (unfortunately) do.
Without having seen any of the incidents in this discussion, the facts are:
- As a captain, there is always a right and wrong way to approach and talk to a referee,
- If the ref has made a bad call – you need to just simply accept it – nothing can turn back the time and make it right,
- As a captain, seek to understand the refs viewpoint when a decision appears to be a crook one – and at the appropriate time too.
There is nothing in the law book to say that you have to agree with every decision a referee makes, but what you cannot do is voice your displeasure at what you perceive to be are the wrong ones made.
As a general guide to how we as referees handle dissent:
- Most of us refs used to play, so we ‘get it’. Frustrations do occur in every match (regardless of the grade) and this is a high collision sport we play. Only from experience do we know what to stamp on, and what to let go to the keeper...
- If a player(s) has been asked to tone down their comments, but chooses not to, a PK usually fixes the issue.
- If they are slow learners, then a YC is typically shown to the dissenter the next time he does so..
- if we are directly sworn at by any player – it’s a red card and off you go…
The ref in the Shore v Joeys game typically does Shute Shield level matches, he is very good at what he does, and I am sure he has to deal with far more at that level than any GPS Schoolboy match.
Personally, I would wish players just simply get on with playing, and try to learn from any perceived crook decisions they are on the wrong side of.
And btw: has anyone ever seen any referee reverse his decision after being yelled at?
To date, I am yet to…