Tough guy Meeuws has soft centre
By Danny Weidler
November 23, 2003
All Black tough guy Kees Meeuws hopes to become "friends for life" with injured Wallaby prop Ben Darwin, the man he saved by pulling back as the scrum collapsed.
Meeuws, who has been in touch with Darwin this week, says he wants something good to come out of Darwin's serious neck injury, which nearly put the Australian in a wheelchair permanently. The man known as "Bad News Meeuws" because of the punishment he delivers other players said there was a time for aggression and a time for compassion in rugby.
"I hope that something good can come out of something as bad as this and that we can sit down and have a beer one day and talk about it and other things," said Meeuws. "If we become friends for life, that would be fine by me."
Meeuws stopped pushing after hearing Darwin scream, "neck, neck, neck".
"I wanted to get in touch with Ben to see how it was but I didn't want to make a big deal of it," said Meeuws.
"His number was passed on to me from (Wallabies captain) George Gregan via Justin Marshall. That was always going to be the quickest way for me to get in touch with him.
"I had a little chat with him and it was good to do so. You hate to see anyone injured when you play, even though you play hard.
"Rugby is a hard and aggressive game but it's not a vicious game and I play it hard but I'm not stupid or vicious. There's a time and a place for aggression and a time for compassion."
Meeuws revealed what the two prop forwards talked about.
"Basically, Ben thanked me for what I did and I told him it wasn't a problem and I'd do it again," he said.
"I said to him if you don't play again, you should at least be thankful for having a normal life and being up and walking again. He agreed totally and was saying similar things.
"We agreed that he shouldn't be worrying about rugby and instead should be worrying about being healthy again."
Meeuws's compassion has revealed another side to him, given his reputation as a hard man.
"I must be a softie underneath," he said.
"But don't go telling too many people."